Monday, March 30, 2009

Gluten Free finds at Costco

I get so excited when I run into gluten and casein free food in "regular" stores or unexpected places, like my recent finds at the Christmas Tree Shop. This time of year, I see more of it because of foods that are Kosher for Passover, like our favorite Shabtai Gourmet treats which in the past I've ordered online but right now they are in "regular" grocery store chains. So, as I was at Costco picking up a cake for a meeting I'm going to later - I stopped in my tracks. A giant mountain of gluten free baked goods from Schicks Bakery - all marked Kosher for Passover, so these are a seasonal offering to our Costco. Prices were under $10 and they had an assortment of cookies and cakes. I plan on picking up a few later in the week to pop in the freezer






So, these treats are seasonal to Costco but they are also starting to stock gluten free foods right on their "regular" shelves. One is the Food Should Taste Good brand of chips. I didn't realize they were carrying these here until a friend of mine tipped me off to it - I'd gotten some samples of them a while back that were really yummy. So, off to Costco and I was pleased to see that they were actually using these chips at one of their sampling stations paired with a crab dip! Costco doesn't take coupons, but in the interest of sharing gfcf-diet money-saving tips, the the Food Should Taste Good Website even has a $1 off printable coupon on their website right now when you join their "fan club".







Next time I go to Costco and have a bit more time I am really going to go with my eagle-eye to see what else they have there Gluten Free. In the past I've seen Mary's Gone Crackers as well as EnviroKidz lines there. Also, their Kirkland brands are all clearly labeled whether they contain gluten or not!


Sunday, March 29, 2009

The war against Small Schools in New Jersey

March 29, 2009

The war against Small Schools in New Jersey

There's much buzzing about as plans are being paved for small schools across the state to be gobbled up by larger regional districts in a years time (March 2010). In Ocean county where I reside more than half a dozen small districts - like Island Heights which has its own K-6 school, are slated to be consolidated into regional districts- like Toms River Regional, Lavalette, Central and Southern Regional.

Here in Jersey we've got townships, and lots of them. Lots of townships means lots of schools, and yes a lot of money spent. The consolidations are proposed as a money saver for the state. But what remains to be seen is the impact of consolidation on "our kids" education. Whereas, smaller schools produce on average higher GPAs, higher rates of commencement. Meanwhile, these larger schools are known for crowded classes, long bus rides, gang violence and higher rates for dropout.

More often than not - lately, I feel as if New Jersey is becoming The Borg. Forced Vaccination and Crowded Regional Schools, lets all give a shout out for living in the Garden State!

I suppose I'm showing my true colors now. I'm not Jersey born and bred. I'm transplanted. My family moved here for the 3 E's - Employment, Economy, and Education. I moved here knowing that this state offered gainful employment to my husband and has some of the best special education that we could find for our special needs child. For these reasons, and the fact that I don't have to pump my own gasoline - I'm forced to buck up and enjoy New Jersey living. I'd be a liar if I said I didn't actually like living in New Jersey. I love our "Jersey Shore" beaches, even if they do get crowded with New Yorkers and the traffic is ridiculous during summer months and weekends. New Jersey really is a savory place to live, and I'm not making reference to the pork roll (Taylor Ham). We are what we are because of the people who live here - starting with our kids. What I'm saying is that I assert that NJ's unique flavor is concocted, cultivated, and honed through our school system, lots of small schools be that as it may. I'm not so sure that I'll be saying these kind things about our schools and our state post Borg consolidation. I think in the end, all we might have left is pork roll, but the kids deserve much more.

Original New Jersey Moms Blog post by MaryTara. MT blogs her adventures in parenting two beautiful children on the Jersey Shore, life with autism & without it, the gluten & casein free diet, and vaccination choice issues at The Bon Bon Gazette and raising a child with amblyopia at Adventures in Amblyopia.

Sunday, March 22, 2009

Big brother woes

Alex and his little sister really do love each other, but boy do they fight a lot!

We've had a few incidents lately where Alex gets mad about what Belle is doing. He thinks he's the king of the computer, television and Wii. When he gets frustrated, angry or upset in any way he really loses it and goes into a full blown meltdown. So, in an attempt to help him cope better I've been encouraging the letter writing.

Here are some examples:

Yesterday when he found Belle playing Wii Music:
Dear Mommy and Isabelle, Isabelle Wants Wii Music. But Alex is Mad!!!!!!!!!!.
And Alex says No Wii Music!. Turned the Wii Off. And Insert it Off. And Alex
Wants Play a Different Game. Mom Says Alex Pick One. Alex Wants Wall-E. Not Wii
Music at this Time..... Alex is Hungry. He Wants to Eat Bananas. And Alex Played
Wall-E. Alex Loves Wall-E. Mom says Hey Alex. Do Have Wall-E in Disney Land?
Alex Says Yes. Love Alex. hello kittie mama

Today when he found Belle watching Oswald:

Dear Daddy, Isabelle Wants Owslad. But Alex Says No Owsald!!!!!!!!. And
Turned Off Owsald. When Isabelle is Crying. Alex Wants to Play Wii. NOT Owsald
at this time……….. This Note Says Logging Off Owsald. Love Alex.

Alex's take on The Small Factory

Alex has been writing letters lately about how he feels, ever since the "blood taking" incident (of which I don't think I'll ever live down. So, when he got home from Small Factory he wrote a letter to his father.

Dear Daddy,
I Like go to Small Factory. I Like to Draw Wall-E and Hal and
Eve trash Cubes Wall-E by Alex Wall-E Hal Eve trash cubes The End Created by
Alex. CD Out. Write Wall-E. Case is Broke. New Case.
Love Alex


I love good days. Today was one of them.

Autism Friendly Computer Lessons at My Small Factory

Alex at Small Factory Productions making his Wall-E movie

Alex loves the computer. In fact, he pretty much has stolen my prizy purple laptop and declares that it is his. He loves to go into the graphics program and draw pictures and logos and lately he has been going into Word and writing us letters about the way he feels. He has mad computer skills and it is something he really enjoys doing.

We recently found out about a relatively local business, Small Factory Productions, that gives computer animation and multi-media classes to kids. The owner is autism-friendly and welcomes children of all abilities. Alex went a few weeks ago to his first class and struggled a bit transitioning into the class. Ok, he melted down. He didn't want to do the flash animation and spent the entire class playing in PhotoBooth and KidPics. The decision was made to try private classes for a bit until he was comfortable and then down the road try a group class again. He had off last week for scheduling reasons and this week he has been asking every day for his computer class. We had a little talk about behavior and he promised to try again without a meltdown.

Before class he packed a bag with some of his favorite Wall-E toys and sat down on my computer and drew a Wall-E. He told me that he wanted to go to computer class and show Chris, the owner and teacher that he could make Wall-E. We live "all wall-e, all the time!" here it seems.

So, off to computer class we went this morning and Alex was so excited. When he got there he went right into Kidpics and was drawing Wall-E very primitively. Chris showed him how using flash he could make Wall-E move across the screen so with very little resistence he got Alex into Flash and he drew a very basic Wall-E and off they went. The 2 of them worked together and drew Wall-E, Eve and Hal (the cockroach?) and made a quick movie complete with a "ending credits" - Alex loves credits. The 2 of them had a blast and Alex cannot wait to go back next week to do more.

Small Factory is located in Fair Haven, NJ for more info go to: http://www.mysmallfactory.com/

Thursday, March 19, 2009

Shabtai Gourmet in your local Grocery Store for Passover

We've become big fans of Shabtai Gourmet gluten and casein free (and soy free & kosher, and more!) treats. They are affordable, they taste great. I can find them in my local health food store with a slight markup or order online and get both low prices and free shipping! These are great to send a boxed treat in for school and make life easy.


From Shabtai Gourmet:

During the passover season our product variety grows with decadence. We offer a variety of 7" Fancy Cakes - great for birthdays or occasions, Chocolate & Cinnamon Raisin Coffee Cakes, Bon Bons, Mocha Rolls, and our Seven Layer Cakes! Thes cakes will only be on Display until the first day of Passover.

Here is a link that shows you all the supermarkets that are carrying us just for the passover season:

http://www.shabtai-gourmet.com/?page=supermarkets

As always we offer free shipping on all web orders!

I was just at Wegmans last night and didn't shop in the Passover section and now I'm mad at myself! But, the good news is that from checking the list I can also try my local Pathmark, A&P, Stop & Shop, or Shop Rite.
If you haven't tried Shabtai Gourmet you are seriously missing out (though your waistline is not!)



Loopeez: Helping Kids with Autism learn to Tie Shoes

At our surprisingly painless IEP meeting last week one of the things that I discussed with my son's OT is that he is struggling with learning how to tie shoes. She has also been working with him on it but he is having a hard time.

My son is 8 years old and in second grade - I refuse to buy velcro or slip-on shoes for him aside from his crocs . I want him to wear sneakers with laces and look like a "big kid". This means, I tie his shoes or he keeps them tied loosely and just slips them on. I want him to do it himself.

I found Loopeez and decided to give this product a try. A pair is just $4.95 and shipping is fast (within days). Over the weekend I plan on putting these on his sneakers and sending the instruction sheet into school on Monday. Today they had a field trip and tomorrow is another off-schedule day so the weekend & next week seems like a good place to start. Hopefully sooner than later Alex will be able to tie his own shoes.

Loopeez, helps teach kids how to tie their shoes

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aS4397PeEXQ

Saturday, March 14, 2009

On Emotions, Coping and Autism

For all the talk about expressing emotions and how tough that it is for children with Autism to understand and recognize them... Sometimes I just want to shake my head. At my son's IEP last week his teacher and I were talking about how sometimes my son gets so frustrated and doesn't seem to know how to appropriately express how he feels. Yes, that is often true. But often, it is just a matter of perspective and understanding that he can express his emotions just fine. He just does it differently. And that is OK.

Yesterday was rather traumatic for Alex with a full day of testing that ended with him getting his blood drawn. First we tried a strong arm approach where my husband and the technicians attempted to hold him down to get it done quickly. He fought and fought and screamed and screamed and in the end they only got about 1/4 of a vials worth. After calming down, some talking to and a drink of water we decided to try again. This time I took him into another room and we offered him to lay down on a hospital bed or sit in a chair on my lap. We pretended to take his Wall-E plush's blood (out of his arm and his butt - hey he has a silly sense of humor) and then I had him hold Wall-E and instead of yelling or kicking to just say (loudly) Wall-E or Eeev-a in a Wall-E voice. I told him to look right into Wall-E's eyes (to avoid looking at the phlebotomist or seeing the needle and blood). It worked - and with much less restraint we were able to get it done. Afterwards he asked to go to his favorite diner, and we obliged.

Today, when it came time for him to take off his bandage and gauze (and his sister's also) he suggested on his own - "Say Eeev-a, Rip!" I was impressed that he remembered how we got through the pain and uncomfortable moment and was able to apply the skill appropriately. I think we've found ourselves a good coping method with the help of our friend Wall-E.

A little bit later he was playing on the Wii doing one of his favorite things, mii making - and he made yet another mii of himself except this time he put a sad face on. Alex is always insistent that his Mii's have smiles and he despises how the "guest" mii's that are built in have "angry faces" instead of smiles. When he was making the sad Alex he was talking aloud and telling me "Alex is making a sad Alex. Alex is sad because of the blood taking. Alex is going to get out of here".

Then, he told me that he wanted to write me a letter. I thought it was a laptop stealing technique - since he is famous for coming up with excuses to get onto my laptop or get me to hop up for a drink or something so he can quickly take it over. Well, he got on my laptop and opened up MS Word and wrote me a letter:

here it is, unedited.
Dear Mommy, Take Your Blood-taking Nurses. And Alex is Very Very Sad. He Dropped the Eyeglasses on the floor. Nurse is Pincing. Alex says Ouch! Alex is Done. Alex in a Chair instead of a bed. Alex Wants to Talk Wall-E. Say Wall-E Rip and Say Wall-E. Don’t Kick Say Wall-E!!!!!!!!!!!!. Alex is Done is Time to go to the Diner and play Nintendo DS of Diner Dash when Alex is Happy. Eat French Fries and Hot Dog. Love Alex
I do believe that his letter says it all.

You are invited to a Gluten Free Twitter Party #gfree

Gluten Free Twitter Party
Save the date to participate in the Gluten Free twitter party on Friday April 3rd at 9AM, 1PM and 7:30PM Pacific time.

There will be panels, chat and prizes. More info on panel members can be found here.
The event is being organized by Bonnie Sayers @autismfamily on Twitter.
Use the hashtag #gfree on your Twitter posts.
My twitter ID is @hellokittiemama and I will be on the 1pm panel.

To RSVP go here

Doing our part for science & autism research

So, our family met the criteria for an Autism study and I decided we should do it. The benefit for my family (outside of a little bit of compensation) was that they told me I would get copies of all the evaluations from the day. The study took place in NY and it required the whole family to participate. I'm fairly certain in the no less than 200papers that I filled out that there was a confidentiality clause in there so I'm going to discuss things pretty vague.

Overall, I am glad we participated but I found the experience draining and so much could have been improved. The study is looking at genetic differences/mutation where there is a child with autism and a sibling without it. The day started off with a bang - lovely traffic getting into the city but we made it in with only minimal delay. However, Alex became agitated and started asking to go home after we parked and had to walk the 3 blocks to the facility. Seriously, these are families with autistic children and young siblings and expecting them to walk even just a flew blocks should be disclosed. I expected since it was at a hospital that there would be parking right there but wasn't thinking that this was NYC - a shuttle or reimbursed cab ride would have been appreciated. Oh, and they didn't reimburse the parking or the parkway tolls which I will be following up with them on.

When we got into the study we had to fill out more paperwork (aside from the giant stack that my husband and I - as well as my son's teacher already had filled out. These were releases that had to be signed in duplicate. Then they took pictures of us including our extremities which made me wish I'd gone for a mani/pedi ahead of time!

Alex had some difficulties pairing with the ladies doing the testing but he was completely out of his element in terms of a different environment (wierd) and new people, etc. He did complete the testing though, and I look forward to seeing all the results. One thing that doesn't surprise me at all is that they feel his diagnosis should be more High Functioning Autism instead of PDD-NOS, that is not news to me.

Thankfully I had brought a backpack with reinforcers in it and snacks because though they assured me that there would be gluten and casein free food available for him at lunch time it was extremely limited. I was glad I had bananas and juice and other snacks like gfcf pretzels in his backpack.

The day concluded with "the blood draw". Before doing the blood draw we had to walk - yes walk... with a 4 year old and a child with autism several more blocks over to another facility of the hospital. Seriously inconvenient and dangerous considering the flight risk. I was furious. When we got to the lab room they started with my husband and that went pretty quickly. Next they wanted my daughter and I got the job of holding her. From past experience I knew that she would be difficult and scream a lot and fight it. The lady required multiple jabs in order to get her blood and it took forever and a day. By the end of that I wished I had on a tank top and shorts I was sweating so much. Alex was next, and my husband was going to hold him since he is so strong. The screams were so loud that they could have probably been heard in New Jersey. After 15 minutes or so of the screams my husband came out and told me that "they didn't get enough". So, in a nutshell all of the data we had given and testing Alex had gone through - plus Belle's suffering for the blood would have been moot. They still wanted my blood though and we were talking to them about them possibly sending someone to our home to collect it. After they were collecting my blood (oh by the way, I'm very proud that I didn't pass out - especially since I hadn't eaten lunch) and we were discussing how to proceed with Alex - he walked right into the collection chair and sat down with his Wall-E and Nintendo Ds.

We made a decision to try a quieter and cooler room that had a bed in it to try him laying down and this time to have me be the one instead of my husband. So, off we went. He wasn't going for the hospital bed but his compliance was a lot better. We talked about what was going to happen and I asked him what he would like to buy with his giftcard that he would get afterwards - Wii & DS games, a movie - I even told him he could have my giftcard also. We then took his Wall-E plush and pretended to take Wall-E's blood. He came over with Wall-E and sat on my lap and said he wanted it in the chair and not the bed and we went from there. I told him that instead of screaming that he could say WAAALL-EEEE or EEEE-VAA and to look at Wall-E and not the needle. He did super and got the job done. Because they'd previously blown the vein the first time around they had to do it in the top of his hand (OUCH). Ultimately though, we got through it.

Of course at this point we then had to deal with commuter traffic back to Jersey - and exhaustion.

What a day.

Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Painless IEPs and Potty Mouths

Yes - because yesterday we had one!

For one of the first times in YEARS my son has had an easy breezy in and out IEP meeting. So much so, that I came home and thought - ok, what am I missing here? Should I have pushed for changes? Then I start to overthink things.

We love our teacher this year and that makes such a world of difference. I wish we could have her again next year but he'll be entering the 3-4 grade class.. movin' on up. Service levels for OT, PT, Speech will all remain the same with no increases or decreases but it looks like graduation from PT will be sometime next year.

The worst our problems has to do with the fact that my son has picked up a few words in his vocabulary of the 'colorful' nature. I fess up, some of them he has picked up from me but most I believe are from Youtube which he loves too much. Most of the time the videos he watches are completely innocent but occasionally we catch him with one that he should not be watching at all. It is time to put the blocking software back on the computer which will create meltdowns of its own. The last time we put it on the computer we caught Alex trying to google how to turn it off (he was 7 at the time) - yeah... scary smart.

Monday, March 9, 2009

Princesses don't wear glasses

Bad vision and a host of eye issues haunt my family. I have had glasses since about the 3rd grade. I do have contacts but my eyes are very sensitive and I prefer glasses. My husband, on the other hand - has had glasses since he was a little kid (7ish) and prefers contacts. Alex got glasses (and lost them, broke them, etc) when he was seven. With him we knew he needed them because he was squinting a lot. At first we weren't quite sure if it was a sensory thing (the squinting) but it soon became quite clear he needed them.

So, when the pink slip came home from my daughter's preschool the other day - I wasn't totally surprised about it. She failed the vision test, of abominable proportions. That doesn't mean it made it any easier to stomach. Being the girly girly girly girl that Belle is I could see right away that this was going to be a slippery slope. Although, at one point many months ago she asked for "clear glasses" like everyone else had in the family instead of her gazillion sunglasses. So, I thought - this could be OK. Still I cried. My little girl would need glasses. We'd have to put glasses on her pretty little perfect face over those beautiful blue eyes. And then I cried some more, because I wondered how long she'd been struggling with her vision and we didn't know. The doctors didn't even pick it up at her well visit - and our pedi is married to an eye doctor even! Still, a part of me wanted to doubt the school eye test result and hoped it was incorrect (even though I knew it probably wasn't).

I made an emergency appointment for the eye doctor and began to prep Belle that she'd probably need glasses. My friends who have little girls with glasses sent me all their smiliest and most fabulous pictures of their daughters wearing glasses, even some in princess dresses. As my luck would have it, another little girl in Belle's class came in with eye glasses to school. This would make 3 or 4 kids now in the class with glasses but before that the only little girl who had glasses is "not her favorite" - she is a little girl who spits, and Belle doesn't care for her (she also called Belle names at one point). And off we went to the eye doctor on Friday - many tears ensued before we got there. She was very afraid but once we got there she calmed down and was perfectly behaved without one tear.

And then they did the testing. The results from the school were confirmed. But, it was far worse than I imagined or prepped her for. Not only does my little girl need glasses, she has anisometropic amblyopia. What this means is that she has one eye with good vision and the other is in the 20/200 range. She isn't using the bad eye at all, but she does track with it which is a good sign. I saw for myself that she struggled even to make out the largest picture on the picture chart (a hand) using her left eye while the right eye was fine and down to the 20/40 range. She is going to require the use of glasses, eyepatches and drops - maybe even surgery. They are going to be doing more testing on March 17th and planning out the course of action. Before we go I need to use Atropine drops in her eyes to 'paralyze' or freeze her eye muscles. I feel so bad for Belle right now but am trying to keep on a happy face.

I've set up a new Amblyopia Kids blog called Adventures in Amblyopia - follow Belle's journey here:
http://www.amblyopiakids.com/

Friday, March 6, 2009

GFCF Friday: Goldbaums Gluten Free Ice Cream Cones make for happy kids

I shared that I recently found a slew of gluten & casein free foods at the Christmas Tree Shops including ice cream cones. These ice cream cones, to be specific: Goldbaums Gluten Free Ice Cream Cones. I snatched up several boxes of these for only $2.49/12 cones - such a bargain. I since went online and found them at amazon for a case of 12 for $36.99 which breaks down to just $3.08 a box or at the GlutenFreeMall for $3.93 a box - still not too bad. At the health food stores the gluten free ice cream cones are ridiculously priced at something like $7.99 for a pack of 6 cones - no, I'm not joking.


My son loved ice cream cones but when he went on "the diet" and I saw those prices for GFCF cones the days of an ice cream cone treat became a thing of the past. "Ice cream" in boring bowls, it was. No more! My son had his first ice cream cone since going GFCF and to see how happy it made him... well, it was like a million bucks to me. As for our favorite gluten and casein free ice cream - Purely Decadent from Turtle Mountain vanilla for the kids - we love their coconut milk dairy free line.. it is so creamy. As for the taste of these cones - spot on! They look, smell and taste just like your standard ice cream cup cone. Winner!

Goldbaums gluten free cones are: Kosher, gluten free, vegan, gmo-free, and "low calorie". Ingredients: Potato starch, cornstarch, demerara sugar, water, expeller-pressed palm oil, salt, cocoa powder, xanthan gum, baking soda
Goldbaum's Natural Foods Gluten-Free Ice Cream Cones

Thursday, March 5, 2009

Surprise Surprise - Gluten Free Foods at the Christmas Tree Shops?

A friend of mine tipped me off a while back that the Christmas Tree Shops had some Gluten Free foods on pallets for unloading and that I should check there, and I completely forgot about it. Until, another friend of mine told me that she bought some organic rice krispy treats that her kids were devouring and when she inspected the packaging it said gluten free and dairy free and I should go check it out.

So, I headed over to the Christmas Tree shops while my daughter was at Pre-K to scope it out for myself. Sure enough - I hit the big haul.

I found quite a few Gluten Free foods there and the prices were incredible - a couple of bucks per box instead of the arm & a leg I'd normally spend at a health food store.

If you have a Christmas Tree Shops store - run.. don't walk for Gluten Free bargains! Since the stock there is always changing I am definitely going back and stocking up. Ice cream cones - really!